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The winds of change have worked their magic. A lot's been going on for me. I've been working a lot. Unfortunately it hasn't been a career type job. I'm still just working part time at the movie theater while I search for work. I've currently got 9 resumes out, and the 10th will probably go out tomorrow. So things are hopefully looking up.

Let's see...updates since the last entry. I finally finished my latest series. I did that about a week after I wrote the last entry. So that's done and out of my mind. I was happy with the end, but at the same time, it could have been better. Ah well...we did our best, and that's what counts.

After I finished my series, I decided to recut my demo reel, which I may have mentioned before as being required for getting a video type job. I made a cut I was satisfied with, put it online, and showed it to some friends that I very recently met. Both of them are really deep into the video / film industry. Basically they looked at my reel and told me it was crap. They gave my work a lot of criticism that really helped me see things differently. I had no idea what a real demo reel was supposed to look like until I talked to them.

So I recut it again. I'd have to say all in all I recut my reel four times. Finally I was left with something that they were both satisfied with, and I was proud of. However, I was left feeling like I knew very little about video production. My hopes for a video career were somewhat dashed, but I guess it was a good thing. I feel like I have a fresh perspective on my skills and talents. I'm applying for any job I have experience in right now. Really for me it serves as a medium for getting my hands on a video camera and making more films. So as long as I get a job I don't hate, I'll be ok.

Relationship news... a lot has changed. As of about a week ago, the long distance relationship ended. I'm actually quite happy about it. In my last entry I posted the communication got better. Well...that didn't last long. After a couple weeks, she reverted back to saying "Hi, love you, gotta go" and that was it. Eventually I got sick of it and essentially told her to get a phone and call me. That was a catalyst to a huge fight, which ended in the breakup. She was demanding I do ourtrageous things to get her back. I took a step back and looked at our relationship, and my eyes really opened. For the first time I saw her for the controlling, obsessive, unstable, and abusive girl she was. After that, all attraction I had for her disappeared. I was happy to see the relationship end. I hope she'll be ok. It sounded like she had a lot of issues to work out.

In the meantime, I had a girl send me a message on Yahoo Personals. I was shocked, because I had looked through the profiles on that site about a week earlier and thought that she was cute. But I didn't think she'd be interested in me. So I didn't say anything, and then a week later I get a message from her. It was a really sweet message basically saying that she was smitten and paid for an account just to message me. I was totally flattered, and of course had to write back. And that's the beginning. :)

We called each other, then we set up a first date in a coffee shop. We ended up closing the shop because we were there so long talking. Needless to say it went well. I was a little concerned on how she would take me being trans, but it really was a non-issue. I told her within the first five minutes. Anyway, since that date, we've gone out several more times. She even met my parents this past weekend. They really like her too.

So yeah, things have been going well. The relationship is progressing at a pace that she and I seem to both be comfortable with. The distance between us (about an hour drive) is actually proving to be helpful right now. We can't rush things, which is nice. I will definitely keep you all posted on what happens. Oh and by the way, she's a great kisser. *wink*

Other than that, it's mainly just been me working at the movie theater a lot, and me sending out resumes a lot. I still have to finish my research, which is so close to being done. I've been reading a lot lately. I read this book called "Ishmael" by Daniel Quinn, which is a really interesting perspective on our society as well as some religious concepts. I'm reading a book on spiritual healing called "Essential Reiki" by Dianne Stein, which is really enlightening. I'm also reading a book by the Dalai Lama called "Stages of Meditation". Essentially I've been on my own spiritual journey lately. After seeing the documentary "What the bleep do we know", I've been on this quest. It's been very spiritually fulfilling, and that's great since I haven't felt in the right spiritual mind for a while.

I'm seeking something internally, and I think I'm finding it now, which is such a great feeling. After having my Christian faith ripped from me due to religious intolerance of difference years ago, I've felt rather lost. I think that was sadly necessary because it allowed me to see my own faults and my former faith from a new perspective. I saw the blindness, and the closed spirit I once had. It allowed me to grow, which I'm grateful for. We don't always get to see the faults of who we were and of the religion we followed. So it was really a blessing.

I'm finding that I'm now more of an amalgamation of things. I've retained some Christian concepts, but I view them differently now. I'm more of a buddhist than anything really. I guess perhaps the best way to describe me is spiritual. It's not about religion anymore for me. It's about finding the right path and the truths that are universal.

Anyway, enough about that. I've been doing a lot of me things, because I've needed to. I set a lot of stuff aside to figure some things out, and it's been great. I've finally started to feel like I can be productive again. I'll admit I set aside the TransLife updates because I needed it. I'm only now starting to look at what I can do for the site, which is daunting. We'll see if I can come up with something. The software out there isn't looking promising. I may have to either design something myself or pay for something....neither of which I have time for right now. Hopefully after I get a job things will change in that area.

I'm rambling, so I think I'm going to go. Thanks for tuning into Jessica's monthly update!! Tune in next time for another exciting episode. Hehe. See you all later. :)

Luv,

Jess

Yes indeed...I do exist. What a hectic time it's been. I've been spending most of my time reading and writing...hence me not writing on here much. Kinda get sick of it after awhile. The research paper I'm working on will probably be around 50 to 60 pages long. Right now it's about 40 or so. That's actually kind of funny, because when I initially started writing this post, I said it was going to be a 30 page paper. I've covered the first two important sections: the history of gender and the current practices and perspectives on gender within several fields of study such as sociology, feminism / women's studies, psychology, and so on. I've also deconstructed a few important concepts related to gender. Since then I've also tackled a bit of the final two sections, which details the new viewpoint, definition, and the birth of the next movement. So I've had a lot of stress lately. This research is essentially an incredible responsibility.

I'm excited about it though. This research is huge! I really think that after it gets published, it's going to make the media. This is going to be a big deal. A new movement of this size hasn't been started in a long time. Plus, this is so core to humanity, and definitely to trans people. I can't really post too much more about it, because I want it to be a big grand unveiling when it gets published. I'm going to put it on here in the transcyclopedia when it's ready. Don't worry, I'll announce it.

Throw onto that research the fact that I had to move back in with my parents and you get a TON of stress. Though the move wasn't horrible, it was still a big move. Packing everything up and then unpacking everything after I got home. Then I get to figure out how I'm going to handle being in the same house as my parents. Don't get me wrong, I love them and they love me. It's not an issue of fighting or anything. It's just that my freedom is much diminished from what it used to be. I'm not used to having a strict dinner time and such. Plus, my schedule is quite the opposite from my parents. I'm rather nocturnal. I stay up until 4:00 am and then sleep until noon. They don't like that so much. I'm adjusting though.

OK...so job hunting. Not so much fun. I've been a bit concerned because I haven't had a whole lot of time to send resumes out. I have sent a couple, which is good. However, the response has been pretty nonexistent. I did my first follow up call, which went well. They remembered me very distinctly and thanked me for sending the very nice resume package. I had bought some really nice envelopes and folders to be all impressive. Yet they never called me for an interview. Their loss. I'm sending out at least 8 more resumes and such this week though.

Let's see...website news. I've designed a new logo and installed the new framework, which I need to spend some time on. Here's what the new logo looks like:

The glow is only a temporary glow. I'm going to be animating it with particle effects and motion of all sorts. It'll be cool. I'll keep everyone posted on the changes to the site as they develop.

Right now I feel kind of stagnant. I have several projects that I haven't finished. I feel like I'm getting nowhere on them. I think it's because I'm trying to divide my attention between them all. Plus, I keep distracting myself with second life, which is highly addictive. I've been sleeping a lot too, which is kind of my escape from my responsibilities. My dreams don't have me doing major research and such. It's a nice relief, however it's not helping the situation.

On a happy note, things with Jess...my long distance online relationship that I've bitched about a lot...have actually gotten a hundred times better. (Yes I believe this is the point in which the 2x4s will come out) Seriously though things have been fantastic. We're talking pretty much every night. There's a voiced committment, which is great. We're actually going to meet in person in about a month. I'm pretty nervous about that. It'll be interesting. So yeah, this is turning into not just an online relationship anymore. (Put the 2x4s away...geez) So far so good. Of course in any relationship there will be rough points, but if we got through the last stuff ok, I think we'll be able to get through the stuff ahead too.

I'm so close to finishing my latest series, I can taste it. I have one night of solid editing left. Then it's finally done. How cool is that? It's a lot of work though. I have to do a ton of special effects work as well as all the audio balancing, sudio effects, music, and yeah...lots. Perhaps I'll do it tonight after I finish my cover letters. Oh and by the way, I've discovered that the thing I hate most about applying for jobs...cover letters. I'd rather vomit on myself. Ah well...I better get to it. See ya soon.

Luv,

Jess

Hey all,

Sorry I haven't posted much lately. I'm busy working on research and a series. I will post about it later in the week. :)

Luv,

Jess

So I spent $25 on paper last week. Wait...correction, I spent $25 of credit money on paper last week. It was expensive paper. I got a whole 80 sheets. Yup, that's right...Jess bought resume paper. I do realize it's necessary to impress with a 100% cotton paper resume instead of your 20lbs recycled printer paper, but to me it's a bit ridiculous. Though...I do want a job. So I suffer though it. Besides...I'm in over 30 grand of school debt. What's another 25 bucks?

I spent a lot of time before the 4th on my resume. I think it's just about done finally. I've had the people at career services from campus look at it not once, but twice. I also had a friend head hunter person check it over and give me great suggestions (Thanks Austin, you rock). Now I just need to solidify my references (not a problem at all), and my portfolio (a lot of work).

The portfolio will take me an evening to do. I just have been putting it off...which is bad. I know what I want it to look like. I know what I want it to do, but I just have avoided doing it. I even have all the necessary video clips set to go. I spent two days converting video off of a former video project DVD too. I just need to sit down and do it. I've been wasting time too much.

Other than that, I had a great 4th. I went home to visit my parents. I took Meat (my cat... I usually call him Kitty, but since he sleeps in a box that has "Meat" on the side, my friends started calling him Meat. Seems to have stuck) home too. Sadly, when I put him in the kitty carrier, he apparently needed to go potty right then. I had no way of knowing that. So...he was whining a lot in the car. Suddenly...it smelled like poo. Then again an hour later...more poo smell. Then about 10 minutes from home...a kitty urine smell. I felt so bad. He was panting and drooling from holding it so much. Thankfully on the way back to my apartment, he had no trouble...slept most of the way.

The fireworks were great. I went to an art museum and took some pictures of the building. I visited with some great friends, Seth and his girlfriend, Hannah. I also hung out with another trans friend of mine. Her name is also Jessica. I know a lot of Jessicas. And of course, I spent time with my family. It was a great five days home. I don't think I've enjoyed my time at home as much as I did that weekend in a long time. It was great.

The time in the city did tell me something important too. I realized that I really really want to move away from where I live right now. I need a bigger city. I need the hustle and bustle. I need the energy of the larger area. I am not going to apply for the job that is open near where I live right now. I want to leave here. So at least that is settled.

Other than that stuff, I haven't been doing a whole lot. I recently started playing Metroid Prime. It's a fun game. I've had it for quite a while, and I just haven't played through it. I'm stuck right now fighting the Omega Pirate. He's a bitch to beat. Anyway...I've also been reading too. Still doing the research. I wasted my time with Middlesex. Though an interesting book and story, it just doesn't apply to the research. I'm going back to postmodern theory stuff to see where it goes.

I saw a couple movies too: Superman Returns, and Pirates 2. I'll review them later though. I gotta run now. A friend and I are about to run to the store. See ya.

Luv,

Jess

Well, I finished Fable today. That's a good thing. I felt the urge today to be productive, and that makes me happy. I think I've finally recovered from the school year and can get back to work. I've started work on a new TransLife look and such. I took a look at some Content Management Systems, and found one that I really like. I think we're going to switch over to it soon. I just have to figure out how to transfer all of the data on the site first. I'm even going to redesign the look and feel of the site as well. I'm thinking that it'll even include a new logo. So...yeah, major changes.

I also started working on my resume as well as a Demo dvd of my work. I will need to get some editing done on stuff to make sure I have some nice visuals on the disk. I want to wow people when I send the disk in for jobs. I also had someone send me a heads up on a job in the area I currently live in. I will apply for it even though I don't want to stay here. I'm also going to apply for a few others too. I need work, and I'm not going to sit on my thumbs relaxing anymore. It's time to get to it. :)

Luv,

Jess