Posted on May 7th 2009, 5:45 am
Keep a close watch on this site. I've already finished the new layout. I'll be rolling it out as fast as I can over the next few days. Stay tuned...
Posted on April 24th 2009, 7:51 pm
So...now that we've covered the employment side of things, here's what's new in the rest of my life:
A few weeks ago, I watched the movie Ghost Rider, with Nicolas Cage. Wow, was it bad. It was so bad that I found myself enjoying it. It was a B movie in most every sense. The special effects were cool, but the story was just...weak. They could have done a much better job with it, but hey, instead it was fun to watch for the sheer enjoyment of how bad it was. If ever you want a bad movie to watch, pick up Ghost Rider.
Continuing on the bad movie front...I saw Dragonball: Evolution with my friend Daigham on opening weekend. You know a film is going to flop when it's in a small theater the day after it opens and even then, there's like...15 people in the theater. I was expecting a crap sandwich of a film...and that's what I got. They tried very hard to match the feel of the show. Chow Yun Fat really gave a great Master Roshi performance, but ultimately, the show just doesn't translate well to the live action realm. The show itself spans 153 episodes. They kinda jumped in and mish mashed the story into 85 minutes. The whole movie just felt like a high budget, but poorly executed Power Rangers episode. The effects were pretty, but that's about it. It was cheezy bad. Disappointing, but at least the anime is still cool.
During all the time that stuff was going down at work, I was still finishing up some freelance. I was dealing with a ton of stress. I felt it pushing down on me every which way. It was manifesting itself in a lot of ways. I was breaking out, which isn't cool. Also, for those of you that don't know, hair grows more when you're stressed. So, when I went in for electrolysis, she really had to remove a forest. Haha. Thankfully that stress is gone now.
Part of eliminating stress in my life involved dumping the website project that I took on a few months back. It was a flash based project that was a bit over my head and skill level. I found a very talented flash developer that was willing to take on the project. I think it was a good move on my part. I'm bad with web based freelance anyway. I think as my skills progress with web development, I'll feel a bit more comfortable at it. Plus my friend Tracy might be willing to work with me. She's a much better graphic designer than I am by a long shot. So maybe I can do the back end and she can do the front end.
I've been watching a lot of PBS's Nova lately on Hulu. It's a great show and I've always loved it. Anyway, this particular episode was about ants. A famous entomologist, E.O. Wilson, has been studying them for years and actually was the founder of the concept of sociobiology. Basically sociobiology is social behavior that is embedded in the biology of the lifeform. It's really fascinating stuff. It got me thinking about gender...as usual. I was thinking more specifically about transphobia and homophobia and how perhaps those behaviors are sociobiological in nature. By that I mean that the fear of the unknown is a survival tool that humanity has employed. By using fear, we can ensure that we stay safe. In the case of homo and trans phobia, there are a lot of things that could subconsciously be feared. Perhaps it's about procreation or self preservation. As time progresses, I think the sociobiology is changing in that regard...at least specifically to homosexuality and transgender. Perhaps as a population grows to the immense size that humanity has, those biologically embedded fears are less and less necessary. Anyway, I thought it was a fascinating concept to ponder. Feel free to share your thoughts.
Oh, a few weeks back I finally got to do a photo shoot with my friend Ken. He's a professional photographer, and he'd asked me if I'd model for him at some point. So I finally did. Let me tell you...I'm not much of a model. I can do the physical positioning, but I suck at facial expressions. I'm too much of a deep thinker. I have trouble with smiling for real without having something make me smile for real. I haven't gotten the photos yet, but I have a screen capture from my little video camera if you'd like to see it.
Queer Camp starts tonight! You can find information on it at www.queercamp.org. It's free to go to, and it'll be tons of fun. For those of you that don't know what it is, essentially it's an informal conference on LGBT issues. I'm doing two sessions. One is titled "Gender in a slightly larger than average nutshell" and the other is "Ask a transsexual anything". I'm looking forward to it. If you want to go, the registration page is located here.
When the whole thing started to go down at work, I had a conversation with Scott, a member of management, about my future. I talked about my goals for starting a non-profit, writing a book, and mentoring others. It's my calling. He told me that when I talked about that, my face lit up more than it ever has. He told me that I will have more success at doing just that than I will working at any corporation, doing any sort of freelance, or doing just about anything else. He told me I need to build an empire. That sounds kinda...Darth Sidius like...but that's now what he meant. He gave me some good advice on how to get moving. So I think once genderverse gets going, I'm going to create a special twitter account for it that I use to post news about the gender world. I think I'll establish another professional blog that talks about gender daily. The podcast will be important too. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.
Being a leader is what I do naturally. I've really noticed that I tend to take a leadership approach in most everything I do even when it comes to just mentoring someone. I think this weekend and the next few months will truly define the direction the rest of my life takes.
It's a new day! Time to take life by the horns and ride off into the future.
Posted on April 24th 2009, 7:19 pm
The time has come!! And by that I mean I finally got my blog working again. Apparently a plugin for twitter broke things somehow. Now you won't see the "Tweet this" button. Oh well. Maybe it'll come back later when it's fixed fully.
The latest news in my life...I'm unemployed! I know I know...you're thinking "What?!! When did this happen?!! Why?!!" Well let me tell you the story. Three weeks ago today I was walked into the office yet again. I was surprised because it was a total blindsiding. I had to speak directly to HR via the phone. Apparently someone had reported my freelance work anonymously, and since I was doing work with a home builder, there was concern it was a conflict of interest.
They asked me to describe my relationship to the client and why I never reported the work to management. The work I took was video editing for a local client. I made my decision to take the work based on several reasons. The client had recently dropped a big production house contract. So they weren't interested in working with another big house. Specifically, they wanted freelancers. They didn't have the budget to pay that much. So I knew they couldn't pay the rates the company I worked for charges. Most importantly though, they wanted Full HD utilizing a very modern camera. The company I worked for did not have the capacity to work with the footage at all. So it was in no way competing with my employer. I felt very assured that it wasn't a conflict at all. So I never reported it.
I explained that to HR and they took the information and perused over it for several days. They came back to me the following Wednesday, April 8th. They said that they did believe it was a conflict. I was presented with a memo that stated that I would have to drop my relationship with my client and sign to continue my job. I took a couple hours to figure out if this was what I wanted to do.
I truly felt that I had made the right decision. I did not feel this was a conflict of interest at all. I even had my logic confirmed to me by management locally. So I was at a loss as to why corporate felt differently. In my heart, I knew I had done nothing wrong. To add to that, I really enjoyed my freelance work. It was about the only thing in my life revolving work that actually fulfilled me creatively and personally. Plus, I needed the extra income. This work was basically digging me out of a hole that I needed to dig out of. My budget was monthly in the red without the work. So I had to choose between financial difficulty or more financial difficulty. For me it was a catch 22 all along.
What it came down to for me is a moral decision. I felt that by signing the memo, I would be admitting wrong doing. I couldn't do that when I know I didn't. I realized that no matter what, I had to be happy with myself. Anyone that had been talking to me a lot lately knew how unhappy I was working there. So with both my morals and my happiness in question, I chose to not sign knowing full well I'd get fired.
I came back and told them I wouldn't sign and why. I thought I'd be pretty much fired that day. Instead, I was told that it had to go back to corporate for them to think about again. Here I'm going...ok...what's there to think about. Turns out their was, and I will respect the wishes of the company and say nothing other than the next day I was told information that changed things. I was given a few more days to figure things out. I had until Monday 13th to decide.
In that time, I was contacted about a possible job in Eau Claire, my college town and also where my best friend lives. So Thursday the 9th, I drove all the way up to EC to go to a job open house. Turns out it wasn't my cup of tea, but I decided to take a vacation day and really think about the situation over the extended weekend. I sought the advice of close friends in the EC area, like a former professor and some close advisors. They seemed to reaffirm my feelings.
So I came back home and on Sunday night, I wrote out my official statement, which was two pages long. Basically it just fleshed out my reasons for not signing. So..I went to work on Monday and low and behold...my boss was out for the day. So...I used the day to get my software into shape knowing that I wasn't going to be doing much more work on it now. Tuesday rolled around and I finally got the chance to sit down with the management and give them my statement. I could tell they weren't thrilled by my response. Again, I was expecting to be fired right there, and nope...it had to go back to corporate again.
For the rest of the day I found myself twiddling my thumbs. There wasn't any reason for me to start working on anything knowing it was my last day of work. Turns out it wasn't. We didn't hear back that day. So I prepared to go to work on Wednesday the 15th. On my way in, I got a call from my boss saying I didn't need to come in. They hadn't heard back yet, and really there was no sense in my coming in with nothing to do. I was told I'd still get paid. Ok...no problem. Later that afternoon I got another call. Turns out legal was out until Friday. So, I didn't have to come in Thursday with pay either, and I'd be called when to come in Friday. It surely seemed this was dragging on at this point. We all knew where it was going.
Friday I was called, and I was told the decision everyone knew was coming. My employment was terminated. I was able to come in and pick up the last of my stuff....I had already packed it up anyway. I said my goodbyes. I actually choked up a bit when saying goodbye to the two editors. I'm going to miss them. I may have had my issues with the job and so forth, but for the most part, the people were great. It's unfortunate the company treats their employees the way it does though. That's another topic for another day.
So...I left. I have to say, too, that despite what most people would feel upon getting fired...I have no remorse. I'm thrilled its over. I've wanted to get away from the job for at least a year and a half. It's finally done. It didn't happen in the way I had wanted it to, but all things happen for a reason. I've gotten a few more freelance gigs, and quite honestly, I love the freelance lifestyle. I feel so much more freedom and control. I'm still making money, and I'm feeling fullfilled creatively. I'm not feeling tied to a cubicle. I can take a break if I want to. I can sleep when I want to and get up when I want to. This is what I've wanted for so long. It just took me getting fired to get here. I'm actually really happy now.
Before I move on, I do want to say something important. I don't know if Scott or Julie are reading this, but I just want to say thank you. I know you both pulled for me with corporate. I especially want to say thanks to Scott because I heard some of your back and forth with HR, and it told me how much you cared. I really and truly appreciate that. I wanted to express my thanks to you in person, but unfortunately you weren't around when I came in to say my good byes. I'm sure we'll talk again, but now it's officially in writing.
So...where do I go from here? My plan for moving in with Chris is moving forward a bit earlier than expected. I'll be moving in mid May instead of late June. I've got a part time job lined up that starts in July. I've also got plans to talk to some people about using the city business incentive programs in the Chippewa Valley to get myself a camera. I also plan on moving forward with my non-profit. So, I think it's time to let my dreams happen. I'm very excited.
In the meantime, I'm working on getting my new web hosting lined up. After that, I start work on my professional websites. Then I get genderverse underway. At that point, I start the book. During that time, I want to podcast again. I'm looking forward to it all.
So that's part 1 of this 2 part series. Stay tuned for part 2...
Posted on April 3rd 2009, 5:40 am
I guess not. My freelance barrage continues. Today I pick up more footage for yet another video. I thankfully should be done with the majority of my work by early next week. Perhaps that means I will be able to take a few moments to myself and enjoy myself. Tonight I took two hours to go to a spiritual seminar that I had signed up for. I've been going once a month to the LGBT community center in Milwaukee for a spiritual seminar. Unfortunately for the last two months I haven't been able to go due to first being sick and second being busy with freelance. It was good to go again.
So...apparently March 31st is the Transgender Day of Visibility. I wonder if other activists find out about these days through the interweb the day of and wonder why they didn't know about this day before. That's happened to me a couple times before. So...I didn't get a chance to do anything for it other than wonder why the Transgender Day of Visibility didn't have more visibility within the community beforehand to plan events.
Also...I wanted to write about it on March 31st / April 1st, but as it turns out, my web host was having troubles. This seems a more frequent ocurrence of late, and the more research I've done, the less impressed I've been. This particular host used to be known as an awesome host. Now their reputation is falling fast. I didn't realize why Adam had been complaining about them so much until I started to see the problems appear. So...since I have to pay my hosting bill within the next couple weeks, I've decided to move hosts. You may see a day or two where my site is down. It won't be for another week or so yet though. So no worries.
That's it for today...time for sleepy. G'night.
Posted on March 31st 2009, 4:17 am
The freelance seems to never end. OK...well it sort of does. As of today, I got final approval on two 30 second spots I had been editing last week. The producer and I had gone back and forth on fixes and I think we're both really pleased with how it turned out. With all this editing work, I feel like I'm starting to feel that creative groove come back slowly. It's that groove I had when I left college. Now that I'm shooting and editing all the time, I am just in the moment more. It feels good.
In other freelance news, I've decided to dump the flash web project. It's a bit too much for me, and I've been really stressed out about it for a long time now. I have yet to hear back from the guy I asked to take it over, but I'm sure regardless, it'll all get worked out. The web is good for me when it's a personal thing that I have passion about, but I have trouble finding my creative drive for a web client. I think I'm just going to remove it from my freelance offerings unless it's simple. I'd rather be editing or shooting.
Once I get the final ok on that switch, I'm going to start working on Genderverse.net. I've got the database structure set, but I haven't felt comfortable donating any time to the project while I've got other responsibilities. So, hopefully with much of my video work done and the web project off my plate, I can get moving.
I feel bad that I haven't had time to work on my podcast. I've done nothing but work for the past several weeks, which is a good thing. It just means I've had to put other things aside, and that included the podcast. The good news is that I wrote up the rundowns for the next podcast this weekend. I'll be shooting it this week. I'm aiming for a two podcast a month release schedule. I have the next two already blocked out. Let's hope that schedule works.
I'm doing a photo shoot this weekend. For once, it's not me taking the photos. My friend Ken asked me about a year ago if I'd want to do a shoot with him. It'll be a little different being in front of the camera. I fully expect to be uncomfortable at first, but I think I'll loosen up and have fun as time passes. I'm bringing a bunch of fun clothes to wear. I'll have a whole bunch of fun as well as professional pictures after this. I think I'll use some of them for this site's design.
This past weekend I got something I really really needed: Down time. I spent most of my weekend catching up on movie watching and some TV. I've caught up on all of the Legend of the Seeker episodes out there. The show has gotten better. It was good to begin with, but I really like it now. I also watched "Super Size Me", which has helped me commit to never going to McDonalds again. I didn't like the place to begin with and rarely went already. So it won't be hard. I also watched Chocolat, which was a charming and beautiful film. The next two on my list are "The Invisible" starring Justin Chatwin, and Chicago with Rene Zellweger.
I feel a little bit of a need to respond to a lot of the comments I got on my last blog post about my voice. I don't have a bad voice by any means. I realized recently that if I wanted to, I could sing. I might subject my podcast viewers to that too at some point. I feel like I should explain. I have a strong history with music. In college, I actually got into the University of Wisconsin: Eau Claire school of music, which is actually a very good music school. The Jazz band has won many a Grammy. While majoring in music wasn't for me, I did enjoy the subject enough to complete the music theory classes. In that time we had to do some singing in class, and I was surrounded by women with these beautiful Soprano and Alto voices. I've always wanted to sound like that...to sing like that. Instead I would sing along with the class and feel embarassed that my voice didn't really fit in either the male or female categories. I felt kind of awkward.
So that's where my vocal discomfort came from. It's taken me a number of years, but now, while that jealousy is still there in some form, I am comfortable with the way I sound. I have a unique voice that people have often complimented me on. It's just another aspect of myself that I'm proud of.
The joys of cooking have continued for me. This Saturday I made myself a lovely dish. It was chicken coated in Italian breadcrumbs, baked in olive oil to a nice crisp, browned exterior. The inside was moist and delicious. I had sugar snap peas and broccoli as the vegetables. I also had some long grain rice to complete the meal. My dessert was a package of fresh strawberries. What a fantastic meal.
Tonight was not as fantastic. I was going to make spaghetti, which I don't make often. I bought some sauce on Friday when I went grocery shopping. One of the jars was on clearance. It was Barilla Roasted Garlic pasta sauce. I love garlic. So naturally I thought it would be great. It wasn't. In fact it was terrible. I was shoving the sauce out of the way to try to just eat the noodles. Now I know why it was on clearance. Let's hope the recipe I have for homemade mac and cheese turns out better.
I don't know why I didn't mention this earlier, but I had a meeting with Chris and another one of my good friends, Erika, about starting a non-profit and what it would take. I have amazing friends. They want to help and were guiding me in the right direction. I think the most amazing thing was that throughout the whole meeting, the term in use was "we". It's as if there was no question that they would be directly involved in the cause. I can't believe sometimes how awesome my friends are. I've been asking around to some friends who are close to both me and this cause about being on the board when we get going, and they've been all for it. I'm excited to see where this door leads.
On that note, it's time to head to dreamy land. It's an early night for me...just past 11:00, but I need the rest. With all the sleeping in over the weekend, I didn't sleep much last night. Thanks for sticking with my blog post until the bitter end. Haha...g'night all.