Posted on July 23rd 2004, 9:34 pm
I got home last night from a meeting at about 11:00 pm. The meeting was for group facilitators of the youth group I'm now officially a volunteer for. We had a good time just chatting for a few hours after the real meeting was done. So anyway, I walk into my apartment and turn on my monitor to find two instant messages on my screen. I normally get offline messages, so didn't think much of it.
So I check the first one to see who it was. I closed the window because the person was offline. Looked at the second one and stopped breathing. I just remember thinking "Holy @#%$. It's her." My heart was racing. I was completely shocked. It was a message from Jill. I literally had to take a few minutes to let it sink in before I could do much. I never expected to hear from her again.
She started apologizing in her IM, but said she's gather her thoughts and put them into an e-mail. I went and found the e-mail and read through it. It was really heart felt and I could tell a lot of emotion was put into it. She said she was sorry for the way she treated me. She feels she acted selfishly by just leaving like that. She has thought about me everyday since we last talked. She has genuine feelings for me. She was just so uncomfortable with me being trans. She was scared and ran away. Last night was the first night she had been onto her e-mail account since she talked to me last. Apparently she had 73 e-mails, but the goodbye e-mail I sent to her was the only one she bothered to read.
So two weeks later, I finally have an answer. I still am not sure I can believe it. I messaged her back saying how shocked I was and thanked her for e-mailing me. I said I'd e-mail her today. I haven't yet. I'm not sure I've gathered my thoughts and feelings enough yet. I think I will start it as soon as I finish this though. I told my friend Sarah about the whole thing today. She asked me if I've ever met her. When I said no, she said "wow, and that's just from the emotional connection between you two." I honestly can forgive her for leaving. She will definitely have to earn my trust back though.
So anyway, I'll keep ya'll updated on my little drama here. I better get to the e-mail. See ya.
Posted on July 20th 2004, 9:21 pm
I did it. I sucked up my pride and asked my parents for money again. It was really hard this time. I really really hope that's the last time I'll be having to do that for a while. My parents are almost as broke as me. They helped pay for my SRS and they're also doing most of the shopping for my older sister's wedding. I feel like a jerk for having all this medical crap I have to do that insurance promptly ignores.
This was the first time it bothered me so much I cried though. I just remember back to when my mother called me a money hole. I cried then too...but that was different. That was my mom in a mood. This time it's all me. I will pay them back, and hopefully more than full. All I have to say is Money sucks.
Posted on July 19th 2004, 6:58 pm
I am such a dork. I saw Spiderman 2 for the second time last Thursday. I have to say that it was as good the second time as it was the first. I love that movie. I bought the video game too. And....I spent Saturday night, Sunday morning, and Sunday evening playing it. I have to say it's probably one of the coolest games I've ever played. I will probably play through it a few times. Oh, and the video game version of Black Cat (A female hero in the Spidey world) is very hot. I don't see why Spidey wants MJ so much. I mean, Black Cat and he could have super babies. Who doesn't want that to happen?
Anyway, last Tuesday I was supposed to go see "Mean Girls". However, when I got there it was sold out. It was dollar night, so it's kind of expected. Instead, I went to visit the queer youth group that runs on Tuesday nights. We had a good time. I like the kids there. They're really nice. I look forward to helping out with that group in the future.
Oh, on Thursday I also got electrolysis. I had my feet done, which I had no idea that it would hurt so bad. I could feel the electricity throughout my whole foot. I just kept talking to the electrolygist about stuff to distract my attention away. At least it's done for now. I'm sure some will grow back in yet, but it'll be a while. Hair growth cycles are really long for feet. Friday was alone time for me. I ordered a pizza and sat and watched TV. Good times.
Saturday I had my third genital laser treatment. Oh my god did that hurt. She turned up the energy on the laser since there's so little left. It needed to be thourough and it was. She went over this one section three or four times, and by then I was just in agony. By the way, I was also on painkillers at the time. I took the last of the percocet and xanax from a previous treatment. It hit me pretty hard and I was still in a lot of pain. Thank god I was on them this time, because I can't imagine how it would have been otherwise.
After I got home and took a long nap to purge the sleepiness from the drugs, I went out to eat with my friend Chris. We also went shopping at the mall. That's when I bought the video game. Oh by the way, the hostess at the restaurant was really cute. She knew I was attracted to her too. She looked really uncomfortable everytime she came around. When we left and she said bye to our group, we both had eye contact. I totally blushed, didn't say anything and walked away. I'm so hopeless.
Sunday is the day I realized that despite being paid on Friday, I'm overdrafted. The laser treatment was $200. I had to pay my cable bill for this and next month since I wont be here. So that's $150. I went grocery shopping and spent about $50 bucks. I had electrolysis Thursday which was $30. And then the going out to eat and the pizza threw me into overdraft mode. Oh, and I also spent $50 on the video game, but that was on my credit card. Still though, all of my spending aside from my credit card was necessary. I suppose the eating out wasn't. I didn't even think about that. I never get to see Chris and he invited me. So yeah...I'll have to call up my parents and beg for money again. I hate doing that. I can't wait until my hair removal is done. It takes a huge chunk out of my ability to live on my own. I'll get through it though.
Well, it's my luncch time. Yes...that's right, luncch. I love that Strong Bad e-mail. You should watch it. See ya later.
Posted on July 14th 2004, 12:42 am
That's pretty much it for Jill as far as I can tell. I haven't heard from her since last Thursday. She never called or came online. That's the second time this year an internet girl I had a major crush on totally hurt me. I was probably too clingy or pushy or something. Or maybe she just realized she didn't need to deal with her issues with me being transgender. She's gorgeous. She can be with whichever girl she wants to be with. When I first met her, I just knew that this girl was too perfect for me. Something would happen to mess it up, and it would be something I did. I usually make an ass of myself.
Anyway, I realized it Saturday, but I didn't want to believe it. I was crying a lot on Saturday too. I kept myself as distracted as possible. Sunday I had to work, so that distracted me pretty well. Monday was the day in which I would be sure she was ditching me or not. When I never heard from her...I knew for sure. I feel so unwanted...unattractive...last choice. My friends have been trying to cheer me up. Greg and his girlfriend stopped in last night. My friend Kevin bought me dinner today. It all helps, but after three times this year getting shoved aside...it gets to be a bit depressing. Negative reinforcement you might say. I guess it's no different from the norm though. I've felt pretty low about myself since I was very little. Now I'm happier with who I am, but my self image will probably always be pretty low. I feel so pathetic.
Tonight I get to at least distract myself with the thought that the new site design is finally live after probably a month and a half of work. Also, I'm going to see Mean Girls tonight with a friend. Lindsey Lohan is pretty cute...though a bit young. So at least it won't be all bad. Anyway, I should probably go. The movie starts shortly and I don't know if I have enough money. See ya.
Posted on July 11th 2004, 5:07 am
It was a rough Saturday for me. A week ago Thursday I gave Jill my number. She didn't call me all weekend, and because of it, I was depressed the whole time. We talked Tuesday and all seemed well. Wednesday she disappeared. We talked a little on Thursday and I found out she never solidified her plans for coming out in this direction this weekend. I figured that would happen. I don't know why, I just had a feeling. I did ask her for her number though. Instead of giving it to me, she said she'd call me sometime in the next day or so. So I was patient and looked forward to her call.
I hung out with my friend Kevin on Friday. It was a good time. We played Worms Armageddon and went to a cafe for ice cream. He's a nice guy. I'm surprised he's single. He always tries to lift my spirits too. So, we had a good time. I didn't talk to Jill the whole day. I thought nothing of it, but a friend of mine online felt otherwise. She's a very pessimistic person, much like my mother in a way. Anyway, my friend is concerned that Jill is just stringing me along and has no real intentions towards me. I don't want to feel that way about her, but I started to doubt. The fact that she didn't call me Saturday either didn't help, nor did I see her online. Her excuse for not calling me last week I believed. She was camping and claimed her entire purse got run over by the truck her friend's boyfriend was backing up. Her phone was crushed as well as other expensive things. Now, I'm not so sure I believe that at all.
Of course recently I've been ditched and shoved aside a lot by the females I've had feelings for. Part of me wants to believe she's just busy. And the other part of me is looking at what happened a few months ago. Steph wasn't busy. she just didn't want anything to do with me. Everytime in the past week that Jill has not been where she's said she'll be, my thoughts immediately turn to that experience. Like, this past Tuesday night, she said she'd be online all of Wednesday night. After I came home from the leadership forum, I checked and she wasn't there. She didn't appear until late Thursday night. I should be saying "big deal". I'm just so damned insecure.
So I tried to just pre-occupy myself with things today. I fixed a professor's computer this morning. I made cookies this afternoon. I watched "The Princess Bride" tonight. And then, I felt myself returning to those thoughts again. This time, I decided to meditate. It's helped me in the past, and I've wanted to do more of it. So I figured, why not. I asked myself several of those questions during my meditation and tried to just listen to what my instincts were telling me. What I heard was that I need to be patient. I need to relax and let things be. What I felt was that she's not stringing me along. So I'm going to listen to that. I'm just going to relax for the rest of tonight and forget about my worries. I shouldn't even be worried anyway. Maybe she'll call tomorrow. Maybe I wont hear from her again. But, whatever happens, I'll get through it. I always do.