Posted on December 7th 2003, 8:26 pm
Wow, a post finally got a response from people. That's great. I never even gave thought to my phrases that I say like "I wanted to kick him" or such could be taken until reading that. When I say it in person, people understand I mean that it's just really frustrating. I'm not a violent person, but now I realize I need to stop using those words. In fact I feel incredibly stupid for not noticing before. So yeah, thanks for pointing that out.
It's very good to know other people's perspectives. Yes, gay in the dictionary does mean happy. However, the comment "That's gay" is always used negatively. I've never heard someone say "That's Gay" after getting an A on a paper or getting someone's number. So it's obvious they don't mean that definition. The phrase stemmed as a negative connotation to the gay community. And even though someone may not intend to mean "that's homosexual", it still passes on the negative use of that word, which most people attribute to the gay population. With that in mind, it's no surprise that a queer individual is going to be offended by it despite it's intent. Just be aware of that when you think about using that phrase the next time.
As far as calling someone mean...I don't think that makes me a hypocrite. People can easily be mean in this world, and my parents both frequently agree with me that my sisters are mean fairly often. I actually had a discussion about it with my mother that Saturday morning of Thanksgiving weekend after my sister made several insulting comments and then left. She definitely intended them as such as well. Trust me, my sister can be mean.
The whole blonde thing....the point of that comment was to suggest that there are phrases out there that she may have been called that could possibly have offended her in the same way. Now...stupid me forgot that she had only dyed her hair blonde a while ago...so I guess the comment doesn't even work for that point (Sorry Angela). But it's just another example of a phrase that can be used to offend another person, even if it's intended to be a joke. The way I phrased it didn't send that meaning across though, so I apologize for that.
I want to point out though, that the purpose of a diary is to get emotions out. I write in this thing so that I can vent some of the feelings I have. By putting this diary online, I am sharing with everyone how I feel and what I think. I'm very much open to criticism and such, so feel free to comment, but ultimately the purpose of this diary is for me. I am a nice person. Some have said I'm too nice, which can be a problem sometimes. I take a lot of shit from people during the day, and I don't let it show, if I can. So when I write on this, it's so I can get those frustrations out. I try really hard not to write things that can be taken the wrong way and such, but we're all capable of slipping up. And that's one of the purposes of these comments, to point out one of those mistakes. I'm very happy to see that people are commenting. It's a sign that some of these topics mean something to people. I'm hoping to see more of it. I'm not always going to write a commentary explaining myself, because I shouldn't have to.
Anyways, thanks to all the readers for the comments. Keep it up, it does help me to change to become a better person, and I hope it helps others too. I'm going to go eat lunch now, but I have a post about my life coming later tonight. So see ya soon.